hello. I was just curious, if a single person goes to Hedo, will they have an issue finding a good time? And by that i mean even sex with other people. so in all, would a single person at hedo have a hard time finding some "fun" like that?
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hello. I was just curious, if a single person goes to Hedo, will they have an issue finding a good time? And by that i mean even sex with other people. so in all, would a single person at hedo have a hard time finding some "fun" like that?
As a single guy I went to Hedo 3 twice. I had a blast but, I did go with a very fun group. That makes all the difference. Go to have a good time, go to make friends, be a gentleman but not a doormat. Don't expect an orgy. Just expect to get a good tan and have fun. The water slide and the piano bar were my favorite aspects.
If you are going to go to have a good time with no expectations of anything other than having a good time you will be fine. Get to know folks and just be friendly, if the sex part happens consider it a plus...if the only reason you are looking to go is to be part of mass orgies...they do not exist..for the most part...lol...
Good advice paintermark...
Ivy and Rick
"Once you go, you will know"
Single guy here leaving for my 4th trip to H3 next in next Friday. Completely agree and endorse all comments to this point.
8 sleeps and a redeye flight!
next time will be sixth single.
worth every penny.
but I tend to get along with everyone :D
-- and bring M&Ms
If your going to meet new friends get drunk and have a good time in Jamaica its worth it. If you want to go only so you can partake in threesomes twosomes or anything else sex related, Hedo is not really the place for you.
I like to use the term, "The hungry don't get fed at Hedo".
My experience has been that in every situation were I was really pursuing a woman and I had that, "I've got to get some of that" mentality, the situation blew up in my face.
When I was just hanging out, chilling, having fun, and just enjoying being with cool people, the sex opportunities just happened. All were pleasant surprises.
Like paintermark said, be a gentleman but not a doormat. I agree with what Talon said except for the get drunk part. Right now I'm living and working in a place where alcohol is banned, and if I went to Hedo for R&R I might reserve one night for getting drunk, but the rest of the time I'd be relatively sober.
I'd personal recommend to single guys that they never get past a mild buzz.
You don't want your pleasant surprise to come when you have whiskey dick.
living and working in a dry county really sucks. Been there. We only vacation to JA every 2 years saving the odd years for a vacation with our family of 7 which has been dropping and now down to 4. Therefor we do tend to enjoy the drink (within reason)when there are no kids. Cant wait to be able to go every year!!:cheers:
Sure! You'll have lots of opportunities for sex at Hedo! There are plenty of other horny Vinnys cruising around. Oh, did you mean with women? You may be out of luck unless you bring your own.
Where do all these single guys get the delusion that they are going to find sex at Hedo?
I have a theory. Here it is.
Single guy hears about this resort in Jamaica where women run around naked and sex is everywhere. He books his trip and tells his other single buddies all about it. They all get worked up into a frenzy.
The single guy goes to Hedo and much to his disapointment he finds it's a couples resort. Yes there are naked women and all sorts of wild and crazy shit but he finds that the couples want to interact with other couples and single guys are derivisely referred to by names such as Vinny and Wally. But the single guy enjoys the show, spends a lot of time in his room mind-humping the naked women and tries to fit in.
He goes back home. There is no way he can tell his buddies he spent the week masturbating in his room and didn't get lucky so he concocts all sorts of incredible stories about all the women he nailed. Single guys friends can't believe thier ears so they all book trips to Hedo and the cycle continues.
Did I nail it?
I'm sure this will piss off a bunch of Vinnys but my husband and I get tired of the single guys that act like women at Hedo are all anxious to have sex with them. I'm tired of being leered at like I'm a piece of meat in the butcher store window. We're not into single guys and most of the couples we meet aren't either. Hedo is an experience unlike any other we've been involved in and the single guys just detract from that. There are groups that organize singles weeks. Try that. Or better still, try the Vegas brothels. It's a sure thing.
And lastly, once and for all, can we cut the BS on this forum about why single guys go to Hedo? Forget the crap about water sports and the all inclusives and the opportunity to meet other fun people, blah blah blah. It's naked women and sex that lures them to Hedo.
My wife and I just returned (2/17-2/24). The Vinnys are a pain in the ass. NOT every couple are looking to fulfill the single male sexual fantasy and NOT every couple that visit Hedo III are swingers. Some couples may just want a same room sex experience with another couple or soft swing; or just enjoy the environment of Hedo and get into each others. Vinnys- PLEASE stop ASSUMING>
[QUOTE=willlast;96741]My wife and I just returned (2/17-2/24). The Vinnys are a pain in the ass. NOT every couple are looking to fulfill the single male sexual fantasy and NOT every couple that visit Hedo III are swingers. Some couples may just want a same room sex experience with another couple or soft swing; or just enjoy the environment of Hedo and get into each other. Vinnys- PLEASE stop ASSUMING.... :boxing:
Vinnys- Consider HEDO a barbeque...so, it would be nice if you :cheers:also bring some meat for the "grill".:cheers:
Ok, after 9 trips to Hedo 3 and one to Hedo 2 here is what I have to say...I have NEVER met an inappropriate single man...we tend to do lunch, drinks, etc...with them, they are fun to talk to. (Just so you all know we have never had a sexual encounter with a single man at hedo either) Usually it is the drunk married guy who's wife is passed out in the room that gives us problems. So all I can say no matter who you are, don't go to hedo with an agenda, you will be disappointed. Don't go to hedo and be disrespectful of others, you will have an awful vacation. Just go and have fun, meeting new people--some who become friends for life--and enjoying the experience. It's all about fun and it is not an orgy for anyone. BTW Public sex is what my husband and I really like about Hedo....and we don't care who watches and if they are married or not. lol We don't judge people by anything other than are they honest, cool and fun to hang out with. It is a vacation!!! Go, enjoy, no expectations and you will have a good time no matter who you are.
I agree w/Bone2bnikked. However, it generally the single males that travel in groups or 3 or more that create the nuisance.
My and wife and I also enjoy the public sex Hedo! This was our 3rd trip. What is BTW?
I just don't get it. I really don't. Maybe it's different at Hedo 2 but at Hedo 3 the single guys stand out like a sore thumb. And I'm sure if we met these guys in a different setting and situation we'd find most of them to be very pleasant and fun and worth getting to know but it's just so awkward at Hedo.
Hedo is a very intimate experience for my husband and I. We're both naked, flirting and teasing each other. Touching each other, kissing each other, rubbing lotaion on each other. Sneaking a naughty touch now and then. We'll do a little dirty dancing in the disco and head down to the nude beach or hot tub to make love. There are other couples around doing the same thing and it all makes for an incredibly sensual and erotic experience.
And then you've got these single guys hovering around like lecherous vultures. How does this NOT feel awkward for them?
I just don't get it.
My wife and I also enjoy sensual and erotic experience and especially the PSA. Likewise, the single guys hovering around like lecherous vultures breaks the mood for us.
It's funny because the the worst problem we've ever had was with a guy who was married and with his wife.
We don't do the nude hot-tub, so maybe its different, but the single guys we've come across have been cool and respectful.
In response to the originial poster, we've known some single guys at H2 to have a real good time, but if you haven't got game I reckon it can be a lonely and frustrating place.
Oh my gosh, I do hope there are single guys at hedo 2 when I go, as a single girl it would be fun to chat and have fun with them, perhaps dine together and swim, as I am a single girl and in the lifestyle its very rare over here for me to mix with couples, yes of course I chat with them and have a few drinks and laughs etc but from the swinging point of view I have very little to offer them, so come on single guys some of us need you :)
brightongirl
Until single guys are banned there will always be single guys at both Hedos, and they will outnumber single females. Several of these folks are complaining about the fact that there are too many single guys, not too few.
I may be misinterpreting your post but it sounds like you're a single girl primarily hooking up with single guys. Is that technical swinging at all? Isn't that just a single woman enjoying the advantages of being a single woman?
@Brightongirl,
No worries...the posters who are neg on single males are entitled to their opinions. i don't share their views, but I also haven't had their experiences...
I'm going single again and I'm meeting up with the single girls from Florida, whom I met last year...quite frankly i was mildly buzzed and cutting up with them so much last year, i didn't even have the time nor the inclination to gawk at the married couples...
last year, 7 days/6 nights, one rude single guy and he was rude/crude drunk...really rather harmless....once rebuffed, he crawled back under his rock...
My dates changed a bit, but i'm still gonna be there for part of your stay...IMHO, I'm proof positive that a single can go there, be respectful and enjoy the Hedo experience...
I would call it swinging, I have had this conversation several times in the past about being single and being a swinger what ever your sex, yes in the old days swinging was to put your keys in a pot and swap partners with who evers keys you got and yes it was done only by couples. Today with all the various clubs and venues that cater for swingers the whole concept seems to have changed somewhat with both singles and couples being able to enjoy the life style. Now conversations I have had have been that single ladies are not technically swingers but tarts and single guys just players, perhaps this is the case? perhaps its not? after all its only labels being thrown about here it all amounts to the same thing.( I dont care what label I come under so long as I am not hurting anyone)
I used to try and swing with couples but sadly jealousy did get in the way, something I really did not expect when I first joined the lifestyle, and by the fact that I am not in the least bit bi made matters even harder, so now yes indeed I do tend to hook up with single guys.
I very much hope singles are never banned, yes you get the stupid vinnies that piss everyone off, but a firm "no" is usually enough to have them running with thier tail between their legs, that is not just guys though, I have met horrid women also that do the same thing.
Obviously I am english so do not know what the american take is on swinging, it would be interesting to know though, so please let me know what label you think I might be, dont worry I dont get offended lol (not unless you call me the swinger with the daft accent lol) and also what you might call single male swingers.
@ D281,
We have spoken in the past and I am very much looking forward to meeting you, its sad you had to change your dates but still we shall get to meet for a few days.
I also agree with you I am sure there is a place for single guys at hedo, but all I read is the negitives its a pity as it could put the singles off.
Hey you never know I could be one of those pain in the arse vinnie girls that gets blind drunk and grabs every man going, hmmm then again Id rather enjoy my Ipod laying on the beach and soaking up the rays.
See you there....
Ditto here...!
BTW...I promise never to use the word daft to describe your accent.
Us North Americans are enamored with the English version of the language in a peculiar way.
can't wait the DIF is killing me....::dif::
Us North Americans are enamored with the English version of the language in a peculiar way.
hahahaha I love it!!!!
I totally agree with this. We rarely have had issues with single guys. I would also think that Sandy would attract some attention and yet no problems. She has never been put into a situation that made her feel pressured. I would also agree that it does get to be a problem with groups of single men which we did experience once at the quad hot tub. A group of three guys joined us and did some whispering back and forth while checking Sandy's breast out. All we did is went to the nude bar which was the only one open and left them to themselves. After traveling to Jamaica as many times as we have this was the only "bad" experience with single men. Most of the time it is a win win for us when there is a encounter. We personally like the single men around. It adds some variety.
I have a story about one encounter....
NB
I'm afraid I have to disagree with this. We have met single guys at H2 who were inappropriate and some who were down right pains in the butt. They are decidedly in the minority, but when you encounter them it isn't fun. I have had to "have a chat" with a few of them on previous trips. That usually does the trick, though.
As with all activity with these resorts I am sure it depends on the people there that week. More than likely even that time of year... I would think spring break would have a high amount of young single horny men looking for free sex.
NB
We were at hedo 3 late March early April, met 4 or 5 single men and they were all gentlemen, the worst creep was a married man everyone called him "SNAKE" because of a snake tattoo on his left shoulder. Several nights his wife would call it an early night, so he would hang out at the nude hot tub after dark and force himself on couples, not taking no as an answer. Several women were very uncomfortable when he was around
I certainly wouldnt go as a single, I enjoy being with my wife there and thats what is fun to me. Sure I love meeting all the great folks, but it boils down for me to being able to have intimate fun with my sweety. I have wandered the grounds while my wife slept, and man its no fun (unless youre with a group of course)
We had a similar experience with a married guy. He would talk negatively about his wife and would say she was calling it a night because he wore her out. For us if one of us calls it a night we both call it a night, which has nothing to do with sex or trust. Hedo is OUR vacation and we want to be together the entire time whether we are playing with others, alone or just chilling in our room. 51 weeks a year life revolves around the kids and work. Hedo is for us.
I've done the walk the grounds alone twice. Wife got sick and turned in before supper. It's pretty weird by yourself. I felt creepy but forced myself to stay out. I ended up sitting in the hot tub by myself while everyone was at dinner. I then noticed a sign posted by the hot tub. It said something like stay out spa being cleaned with chemicals. I now stay by my wifes side at all times.............. OUCH.......
Can you "find a good time" at home?
Do you have friends?
No. Wait a minute. Im not talking about your Mom, nope not your dog either.
Do you have friends that call you up?
Again, Im not talking about your Alcoholics Anonymous sponser or your parole officer or the neighbor upstairs because you have your porn turned up too loud.
If you are socially inept, flying in an airplane, breathing that magical air, to somewhere somewhat exotic doesnt change that.
I wouldnt go to Hedo looking for sex. If that is all you want stay home, save some money and give Heidi Fleiss (sp) a call.
Guaranteed results without being disappointed.
All sarcasm aside; Think about how disappointed you would be after spending $2000 on a trip to get laid and all you came back with was well moisturized hands?
Sorry, I guess home, H3 closing has brought out the sarcastic bastard in me. :)
The negativism and sarcasm on this thread is interesting... Most of the single guys or gals we have run into are as fun as anyone else at the resort. Why all the distrust and dislike to say it mildly?
NB