worth it for singles?

**docwillie** · 05-04-2010, 10:15 AM

I certainly wouldnt go as a single, I enjoy being with my wife there and thats what is fun to me. Sure I love meeting all the great folks, but it boils down for me to being able to have intimate fun with my sweety. I have wandered the grounds while my wife slept, and man its no fun (unless youre with a group of course)

**miamivice69** · 05-04-2010, 10:39 AM

Originally Posted by Miss B Haven 2

We were at hedo 3 late March early April, met 4 or 5 single men and they were all gentlemen, the worst creep was a married man everyone called him "SNAKE" because of a snake tattoo on his left shoulder. Several nights his wife would call it an early night, so he would hang out at the nude hot tub after dark and force himself on couples, not taking no as an answer. Several women were very uncomfortable when he was around

We had a similar experience with a married guy. He would talk negatively about his wife and would say she was calling it a night because he wore her out. For us if one of us calls it a night we both call it a night, which has nothing to do with sex or trust. Hedo is OUR vacation and we want to be together the entire time whether we are playing with others, alone or just chilling in our room. 51 weeks a year life revolves around the kids and work. Hedo is for us.

**dosequisluvr** · 05-04-2010, 01:47 PM

I've done the walk the grounds alone twice. Wife got sick and turned in before supper. It's pretty weird by yourself. I felt creepy but forced myself to stay out. I ended up sitting in the hot tub by myself while everyone was at dinner. I then noticed a sign posted by the hot tub. It said something like stay out spa being cleaned with chemicals. I now stay by my wifes side at all times.............. OUCH.......

**ScubaSteve** · 05-04-2010, 04:15 PM

Originally Posted by thebigmac91

hello. I was just curious, if a single person goes to Hedo, will they have an issue finding a good time? And by that i mean even sex with other people. so in all, would a single person at hedo have a hard time finding some "fun" like that?

Can you "find a good time" at home?
Do you have friends?
No. Wait a minute. Im not talking about your Mom, nope not your dog either.
Do you have friends that call you up?
Again, Im not talking about your Alcoholics Anonymous sponser or your parole officer or the neighbor upstairs because you have your porn turned up too loud.

If you are socially inept, flying in an airplane, breathing that magical air, to somewhere somewhat exotic doesnt change that.

I wouldnt go to Hedo looking for sex. If that is all you want stay home, save some money and give Heidi Fleiss (sp) a call.
Guaranteed results without being disappointed.

All sarcasm aside; Think about how disappointed you would be after spending $2000 on a trip to get laid and all you came back with was well moisturized hands?
Sorry, I guess home, H3 closing has brought out the sarcastic bastard in me.

**NorthernBoy** · 05-04-2010, 08:37 PM

The negativism and sarcasm on this thread is interesting... Most of the single guys or gals we have run into are as fun as anyone else at the resort. Why all the distrust and dislike to say it mildly?

NB

**ScubaSteve** · 05-04-2010, 08:56 PM

Originally Posted by NorthernBoy

The negativism and sarcasm on this thread is interesting... Most of the single guys or gals we have run into are as fun as anyone else at the resort. Why all the distrust and dislike to say it mildly?

NB

Hello NB,
I am a single guy.
Just got back last week from my 3rd trip and I had a blast!

Cheers

**ColonelPanic** · 05-04-2010, 09:01 PM

Originally Posted by thebigmac91

hello. I was just curious, if a single person goes to Hedo, will they have an issue finding a good time? And by that i mean even sex with other people. so in all, would a single person at hedo have a hard time finding some "fun" like that?

I think that the reason for the negativity/sarcasm is due to his original post. Maybe I'm misreading it, but translated into less opaque language, this is what I read:

"If I, as a single guy, go to Hedo, will I get laid?"

And the answer to that is not a resounding no. On top of that, I'd argue that the folks who show up with that mentality are the most likely to be a problem. So many single guys we've met are so wonderful, and it's frustrating to have to be on guard because of single guys with this attitude. I'd much rather have all the single guys be super cool.

**Moorerotic** · 05-05-2010, 05:02 PM

Originally Posted by NorthernBoy

The negativism and sarcasm on this thread is interesting... Most of the single guys or gals we have run into are as fun as anyone else at the resort. Why all the distrust and dislike to say it mildly?

NB

You've been to Hedo so you know that men are cut a lot less slack than women. I see hedo as a baseball game between men and women were men get one strike per inning and women get nine per inning.

Poor male behavior is greatly magnified because men are naturally protective of their women.

I'd bet that a lot of the people who are very negative on single guys are couples who don't benefit much from single guys, even the cool ones.

If you're in a strictly monogamous or "girls play with girls only" couple then all you get out of single guys is good conversation at the price of dealing with the occasional Vinnie or Wally. If you're in a couple that's up for a threesome or where the wife plays with single guys then you don't mind dealing with the occasional Vinnie, to get to your cool single guys.

Also the Hedos, while not lifestyle resorts, they do have a kind of lifestyle ethos, and the lifestyle is a matriarchy (women rule).

**Moorerotic** · 05-05-2010, 05:16 PM

Originally Posted by ColonelPanic

I think that the reason for the negativity/sarcasm is due to his original post. Maybe I'm misreading it, but translated into less opaque language, this is what I read:

"If I, as a single guy, go to Hedo, will I get laid?"

And the answer to that is not a resounding no. On top of that, I'd argue that the folks who show up with that mentality are the most likely to be a problem. So many single guys we've met are so wonderful, and it's frustrating to have to be on guard because of single guys with this attitude. I'd much rather have all the single guys be super cool.

Another problem I see in the original question is a certain underlying rudeness in the question.

This is such a common question that you only have to lurk for a week or so before someone asks it again. Jumping into a forum like this without putting in your reading and searching time is essentially rude.

I'd bet that the average woman on this site lurks for 5 times as long as the average male before asking a question.

Listen for a while (i.e. read lots of posts) then throw out a question that is at least somewhat original.

**singlecruiser70** · 05-05-2010, 06:45 PM

Originally Posted by ScubaSteve

Hello NB,
I am a single guy.
Just got back last week from my 3rd trip and I had a blast!

Cheers

I just got back from H3 about 2 weeks ago and I can say I went for the friendships and conversations. It would have been nice if I would have gotten layed but that wasnt what I went for. I am an explorer and never slowed down enough from walking the grounds to "hook up". I had a great time and have already booked for next year. If you see a guy always walking, stop me and say hi...... I am just full of conversation. Dick