Stacy,
At Hedo it is usually the woman half of the couple that approaches.
From there it can be direct and right to the point, to more small talk, flirting over days before an invitation is extended.
Both work.
To stereotype, most straight guys are some what homophobic and if straight, want to hear that hubby is straight too. It puts us at ease.
(Phew, Sphincter relaxing now.)
As always in the Lifestyle; The ladies have all the power and control.
What are you comfortable with?
Hope this helps,
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